#but tbf

[whumpsterfire]

thinking of one of my whump stories and like. I think brain damage is severely underutilized in whump. Like concussions are fairly common, but anything with just a bit more lasting consequences - memory issues, brain fog, issues with motor skills, loss or impairment of a sense (vision/audio etc), speech impairment...

I think brain damage would be something that should be explored more.

[frownyalfred]

Omg

Wait

What IF

Thomas wayne WAS batman and THATS why bruce goes around the world getting all strong and facing his fear of bats and becomes batman to live up to who his father was and what his father intended for the world????!!!

He already has so many daddy problems. Let’s not give him any more.

[tharkflark1]

If I get left alone for too long I start thinking about Nightmare Bat-ku

[starrynightsxo]

snoopy is my comfort character <3

[bklynmusicnerd]

This Joseph roast montage. They are never gonna forgive him for calling them cheap.

[coldercreation]

brb about to go down a research rabbit hole lol

Question of the day!

Why is showing ‘disinterest’ such prevalent thing when it comes to building friendships and relationships?

I have talked about this here before in my rants lol, but it just always frustrates me. Like, you know those arbitrary ‘rules’ in dating that you shouldn’t show too much interest or get in touch too soon, or be too ‘intense’ or interested? Like, obviously don’t be a stalker and read the room etc, but I mean if you're just a regular and safe 'well-adjusted' person, why is you showing genuine effort and interest seen as a bad thing (I don't mean love bombing, that's a whole different thing)? If you genuinely like each other, why is the social rule saying that you shouldn’t show that? Same goes with friendships, why is showing interest in the person you want to get to know sometimes, somehow, a bad thing? To a point that some people can get put off by that effort someone is showing to get to know them? Not saying everyone is like this, because I know there are so many people who aren’t. And plenty people also disregard these social rules because they aren’t actually concrete rules. 

This is just a social construct and I’m trying to figure out why it is, because it seems counter productive? By what logic does it work? How are you supposed to make friends/date, if them showing interest in you makes you exit the relationship/ghost/breadcrumb?

How long are we supposed to only talk in one line texts about surface level stuff, to avoid being too much/too intense, before it’s acceptable? How do you know you’re following the same social timelines with the people you’re trying to get close to, when there’s no actual set rules? Someone might think you have to wait three days after a date to get in touch, but someone else will get offended if you take longer than two. But the next day or the same day is too desperate to some folk? And I'm talking about this from the point of view of someone who doesn't have trouble reading social cues/expectations. Can't even imagine dealing with this mess if that wasn't the case. Like what's the point of having these 'rules' if it just makes things more difficult for everyone? :')

These rules, technically, don't need to exist at all. It's all made up, based on... Something? We can always dismiss them ourselves but I'd like to know why they came to be and why we keep upholding them. I want to know the social purpose y'know? Is it a safety thing? Protecting yourself and not wanting to be vulnerable? That'd be valid, of course. But it does seem self sabotaging as it blocks people from actually making the connections they say they want to have?

I’ve been trying to find any research on the social behaviour regarding this, but I’m not sure what to even look up lol. Especially because I think the way we interact and behave has changed so much just in the last five years even. 

I just find it so curious that there’s so many headlines about loneliness epidemic, but people also recoil away from others when someone does show them genuine interest and wants to talk to them.   

I’ve had this initial ‘disinterest’ stage happen in the friendship context more. Also sudden, out of nowhere, communication ending/ghosting disinterest when trying to make friends (like please hurt my heart some more I beg u lmao). I haven’t really dated in the last few years so I don’t personally know how that field is at the moment, but I know ghosting is really common and people actively try to hold back from showing interest at first, even if they are reallyreally interested.

Maybe I’ll try looking more into the effects on social media etc, there’s a lot about ghosting in that context. But I just feel like it’s not quite what I mean, because I feel this disinterest phenomenon thing is separate from ghosting. 

Anyway! Happy Sunday loll xx

[imexperiencinggrowthgetoverit]

In a fanfic I’ve been working on for awhile I have Legend, Wild, and Sky highfive for being in the Technically-Royal club

[hughestism]

i love discord servers with pluralkit but at the same time oh pluralkit you are so tedious to keep updated

[dyna-myght]

Saw online some people declaring that audiobooks count towards your overall reading goal and was like um yeah? why wouldn't they? Is anyone even saying they don't or is this just something people are making up to stir drama? But nope bc I just scrolled into some people actually arguing that you can only count audiobooks into a "book count" list (not a thing on any book app lol) and that counting it in your reading goal for the year is bad????

[onceuponaweirdo]

12yro me obsessed with eroticism in poetry after Portuguese classes about poetry: *writes an erotic poem about women for my Portuguese homework*

My teacher:

My mum seeing it after: Me:

[imkittytohim]

The only things I want hard and rough in life are sex related. Anything else can fuck off.

[azurecanary]

At what point, does me simply mentioning in passing that i am a queer Christian, invite someone else to tell me that i will end up killed because of it

I swear, some people will be so incredibly against religion (as is their right), but as soon as they see a queer Christian, they are possessed by evangelical puritans

[peterspinkrobe]

I think I scared someone away w smut :c lost a follower today.

[montydrawsstuff]

Me: I'm gonna design a book mark, what should it have on it?

Idea Factory: how about one of our fine crafted espios

Me: yer lessgo but .. what should he be doing?

Idea Factory: aha, just cooked it up for ya chief, floaty pose with one leg up. Mysterious look in them eyes, 3 quater head turn

Me: ahh of course. Hopefully I can pull off something so different for me

[kaplerrr]

"come again ? i don't understand."

you chuckle playfully and repeat it, slower. but still unintelligible.

you like to switch to another language to make sure no one around you can understand. when you're overwhelmed.

"you know i'm gonna need a translation, right ?"

you shrug, obviously unapologetic and unwilling to explain. you mutter a few new words.

"it's fine, i like it. that's hot"

you laugh and i know this is the only language i need to speak.

i simply love you so much, it's painful.

"you know that quote ? to have another language is to possess a second soul ? i think you're gonna live forever, sweetheart."

your playfulness turns into softness as you wrap your arms around me and gently kiss my forehead.

you whisper something else, but this time i understand.

I love you too.